If you’re frustrated because he lost interest, keep reading.

Attraction = desire + obstacle, coined from Dr. Jack Morin, “The Erotic Mind”.

Let me break it down for you:

WE are drawn to what we don’t have, what we can’t easily access.

AKA: We always want what we can’t have.

This is how magnets work. This is how the universe works - in polarity. If there’s no obstacle to access to you, there can’t be attraction. If you are always available, there is no contrast for the man to feel.

Men feel more like a man through challenge, and are wired to value what requires an effort to obtain. It’s not personal. It’s biological. On a primal level, men want a challenge. Studies show men release more testosterone when they have a time-sensitive problem to solve. And when everything is handed to them (like when you’re available 24/7), he doesn’t get to activate that primal part of himself. So he becomes passive and you start wondering if he lost interest.

You need to activate a man’s desire. How do you do that?

You are orbiting yourself, not him. Stop checking your phone, wondering when he’ll text, adjusting your schedule around him, hoping, waiting. Prioritize your highest desires. Live from your truth.

You don’t want him yet, you want: love, adventure, connection, liberation etc. The thing you think he can give you. Give those to yourself.

Be so present in your own world that he becomes the one trying to figure out how to get into your orbit.

When a man has to work for your attention - your most valuable asset - that’s when he steps up. The primal part of him wakes up and says “I need to own her attention.”

Now there’s an energetic nuance here: you still need to be energetically available to a man.

Playing hard to get doesn’t actually work because men will become frustrated and emasculated if they think they have 0 chance with ever meeting you, seeing you, or connecting with you. You are energetically available to him, but not physically accessible.

Because sexiness = energetic availability… You must have done the work to open your Sacral and sexual channel.

You need to be energetically available and receptive.

But you have a life that is more important than his attention, so access to you is limited.

You’re open to be fully with him but on your own terms, when YOU decide to make space for him, not whenever he shows up and excites you.

When he enters and stays in your orbit, sacrificing his time, energy, and resources for you, he’s not just attracted, he’s invested and devoted. You have recalibrated with your sexual magic. And once you both choose each other, a real relationship begins.

Try it next time and let me know how it goes.